3 Reasons Guys LOVE Younger Women
WHY do older dudes like ’em young?
So many ladies ask me what is up with older men dating younger women.
There is actually an evolutionary psychological theory surrounding this
common “phenomenon”. There have been many studies conducted exploring
the reasons behind older men dating younger woman.
One of them published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, looked at
400 romantic ads in the Swedish newspapers Göteborgs-Posten and
Aftonbladet and on the websites Spraydate and Match.com.
Men in all categories prefer younger partners. Of a total of 97 men who
mentioned age in their ads, only three were looking for an older partner
— among men aged 40 to 59, only one out of 67.
1. He’s Having A Mid-Life Crisis. Well this is an easy
explanation. Men, who feel they’ve been “tied down” for far too long or
what he considers a marriage of obligation, feel as if he’s been cheated
of his youth and his “fun years.” It’s as if he seeks a younger woman
to replace his older model (wife) and convince himself somehow that
dating a younger woman will bring back his youthfulness and give him a
second chance to have fun again.
A gentleman dating a younger woman is not like a time machine. This is
about the same time he spends his money more freely on extravagant man
toys, replaces his wardrobe, invests in hair club for men and maybe
hires a personal trainer. Some men date younger woman to prove to
themselves they haven’t lost his touch.
2. He Wants Kids. I’ve encountered many men over 40 who admit to
wanting more kids — regardless of the fact that they might've already
raised a few. They believe that dating a younger woman, in this case, is
a requirement (or excuse) to decrease the odds of any birth defects or
health risks.
If an older man hasn’t had the chance to father a child, he seeks a
younger woman for this specific purpose. This seems more like a
fostering plan for some, but some men want to carry on their legacy with
children of their own. Men have biological clocks, too, if you didn’t
already know. They assume older women can’t safely have children.
3. He Assumes All Women His Age Are Like His Ex. As the saying
goes, “Once burnt, twice shy.” Some men have this ridiculous belief
women their own age are all the same. I’ll share an example. If he’s had
a bad experience with his partner going through menopause, frankly it
scares the crap out of him to think about having to go through it all
over again with someone new.
Menopause seems to be the cause of many failed marriages (or at least
that’s what some men I’ve talked with blame it on). If he’s ever been
online dating or on a few sour blind dates with a woman who’s still
bitter about her breakup, he suddenly thinks they’re ALL like that.
Younger women, who have never been in a serious relationship or
“tainted” by a bad marriage, seem like a great option for an older man
seeking a stress and drama-free relationship. Unfortunately for him, his
assumptions about dating a younger woman being “hassle-free” may be
very, very wrong. Most relationships require work and cooperation to
make them successful.
Thankfully not all older men seek younger women for a relationship. When
you consider what makes a successful long-term, healthy relationship
last, age is just one consideration in a number of relationship factors
to consider.
3 Reasons Guys LOVE Younger Women
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I am about to enter into a relationship with a 22 year old. I told her my age-40 and the fact that I am unemployed,surprisingly that didn't bother her at all. Am I having a midlife crisis? Far from that because it so happens that for the past 7 years ladies around my age have rejected me. Until she came along and immediately accepted me. I thought maybe the dust will clear off but since meeting she has never asked me for a cent. Let alone the fact she is also a mother of a three year old. I do at time ask myself if this is too good to be true.
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